By TNT Bureau
Dec 2, 2015: It happened to me last week when I was in the dinner table in Spain. I had come to visit a friend and since it was Thanksgiving, I had prepared delicious turkey.
They were all quiet surprised to learn about this day of celebration. While some made everyday remarks like,? Oh! What fun?, ?This is really good? and so on. A particular question hit me really hard. ?So, you just have a particular day to be thankful. Is it? I was taken back. I didn?t have an answer. I simply smiled.
This might come as a shock but majority of the people find it really hard to be grateful. Do you remember the last time you appreciated something or someone? Be honest before you nod. It is often seen that people express gratitude for selfish reasons. If someone wants to achieve something, he/she goes ahead and indulges in false gratitude in order to get the job done.
For example, researchers in one 2003 study randomly assigned one group of study participants to keep a short weekly list of the things they were grateful for, while other groups listed hassles or neutral events. Ten weeks later, the first group enjoyed significantly greater life satisfaction than the others. Other studies have shown the same pattern and lead to the same conclusion. If you want a truly happy holiday, choose to keep the ?thanks? in Thanksgiving, whether you feel like it or not.
It is really important for you to able to differentiate the happiness within you- happiness via shopping or clubbing lasts for few minutes and most importantly, does no good in building your overall character. Yes, you need to be appreciative of the even the smallest and everyday activities. This might seem a bit odd or unusual to me. Simply give it a try. Trust me; you will feel ultimate happiness that just can?t be replaced.
First and foremost, you need to start off with interior gratitude. This means that you need to be thankful to yourself. Yes, connect with your inner soul and see amazing alterations in your life. Happiness gets doubled and everything around you seems absolutely bright and sunny.
Then, there is exterior gratitude. This guides you to be grateful to each and everything around be it humans, animals or even objects. Yes, the everyday objects you use tough are non-living things but they do serve you in some way or the other. Don?t forget, their presence in your life is crucial.
According to research published in the journal Cerebral Cortex, gratitude stimulates the hypothalamus (a key part of the brain that regulates stress) and the ventral segmental area (part of our ?reward circuitry? that produces the sensation of pleasure).
Remember be grateful. It will wash away all unnecessary troubles, making you feel alive and happy all the way.